How To Show Him You're A Great CatchBy Rori Raye
Author of best-selling eBook Have The Relationship You Want and free newsletter
So you've finally met a man you really like and can see yourself having a relationship with him. You should make an effort to show him you're a real find, right?
Actually, no. The fantastic thing about being a woman is that getting a man to see how wonderful you are doesn't involve any effort at all. In fact, it's all about simply being, not doing.
IT'S NOT WHAT YOU DO, IT'S WHAT YOU ARE
When we meet a great guy, we women often try to do, do, do whatever we can to make him see what a great catch we are. We'll go out of our way to do things for a man, plan outings together, and sometimes even say yes to things he wants that go against what we want.
You can't convince a man to fall in love. But you can lead him there by connecting to his heart. One of the most powerful ways to do this is to let yourself be guided by your feminine energy rather than your masculine. Feminine energy is about being instead of doing. When you focus on simply being in the moment and enjoying a man's company and attention, you automatically shift your vibe so that he can step into the masculine, doer role.
To do that, you must first be open to receive.
A GREAT CATCH LETS A MAN GIVE TO HER
Inspiring a man to see you as the one woman he wants to be with forever is all about you being able to receive love.
Men fall in love when they give to you, not because of how much you give them or do for them. When you shower him with affection, attention, dinners, gifts, and always go out of your way to drive to his place, it makes him think of you as a mother or a friend instead of inspiring his emotional desire for you.
When you are open to receiving from a man, you are sending a message that you value yourself - you believe you are worthy of his time, attention, gestures, and ultimately his love. So resist the temptation to prove your worth by giving and instead create the space for him to give to you.
A GREAT CATCH SETS BOUNDARIES HE NEEDS TO RESPECT
Men are competitive creatures who value what they have to work hard to get. If he gets a sense that you're completely devoted to him with very little investment on his part, he'll question your value.
This means you do not give away exclusivity to a man until you have the commitment you want from him. Instead, you keep dating and meeting lots of different men so that you give yourself a chance to find out what you really want and need from a relationship. At the same time, you aren't prematurely cutting yourself off from your Mr. Right in case you haven't met him yet!
When you keep the focus on yourself and keep yourself open to other men, you send the message loud and clear that you're a woman who puts herself first and that you are a prize. This elevates your "degree of difficulty" so he has to step up his game to get you all to himself...or risk another guy beating him to it.
A GREAT CATCH PUTS HERSELF FIRST
The most important thing to remember when you are dating a man and want him to realize how wonderful you are is to put your happiness first.
If you love taking a dance class every Thursday night, don't give it up just because he's in the picture and you don't want him to think you're not interested. Letting him know you have a life before him actually makes him more attracted to you - not just because you're not about to drop everything for him, but because people who are passionate about their interests are interesting people!
So, tell him, "It would feel so great to see Thursday, but I have my dance class that night, and I love it. I'm free Tuesday or Friday." Then ask him what he thinks. It might feel a little scary to do this with a guy you really like, but the right guy will gladly re-arrange his plans to see you. Why? Because you've just proven you're a great catch he has to woo and win.
Rori teaches women how to break out of the patterns that have been keeping them from truly connecting with a man's heart so that they can experience deep intimacy. To learn specific ways you can step out of the "doing" role in your relationship and into the more feminine energy "feeling" role that is so alluring and magnetic to a man, subscribe to Rori's free e-newsletter. You'll discover even more effortless ways to let a man know he's lucky to have you.
1. Do not start the talk about commitment
If you're worried about how your relationship is developing, it is very difficult to overcome the desire to know what he thinks about it. However, repeated attempts to talk about this can lead to the opposite result. Talk about commitment is stressful for him, which primarily makes him hide in himself or retreat, even if before he was ready to do some serious things about your relationship.
Thus, no matter how disturbing this issue may be, do not give in to the temptation to raise this delicate subject.
2. Do not try to persuade him
The more you try to prove that you are the perfect couple, the more he feels cornered. Your well-reasoned criticism of him may not always benefit: most likely, you will achieve the opposite effect - he will simply be afraid to share his true feelings. And this, of course, is not what would you like to create in your relationship.
A man falls in love when he feels he can make you happy, while remaining himself. Love - it's actually an opportunity to give the other person some part of himself. Criticizing the person you discarded this piece and thus make him be defensive. This reaction only alienate him and not bring the desired effect.
3. Share your feelings
If you feel good with a person, be sure to tell him about it! When you open up to someone and you share your feelings, that shows you are completely open to the relationship. So he, feelling your positive attitude, will make every effort to ensure that you continue to be a happy woman - only with him.
In the course of communication try to bring only positive emotions to your relationship. Any man would love to have such a woman in his life.
4. Directly say what you want - with or without him
Instead of trying to convince the man to do something, try to share with him your dreams and plans for the future.
5. Keep the right choice
When dating someone, you choose and evaluate, what do you really want from the relationship. If you communicate with different men, you have more chances to meet your soulmate. Try not to make a man the center of you world - it will not bring anything good. If he has not yet become your husband, of course. Only a husband can count on an exclusive position in your life.
Remember that you are the person who decides about the amount of obligations to the man!
As you can see, the secret is simple: men are looking for a woman who asks for nothing in return for his love. A woman who does not try to change him and his life principles. When a man realizes that he is lucky, because he was lucky enough to meet a woman like you, it motivates him to take active steps in development of your relationship.